The Dreamers Corner

I have a friend who recently packed up her belongings and moved to a new city, started a new job, met the love of her life, and got accepted into law school!!!!  By the way, I am super duper proud of her for taking all of these steps to the greater life that she knew she deserved!  However, this is the same friend who looked at me crazy when I told her she needed to move 2 years prior to this and had every excuse about why she couldn’t and what she needed to do to even consider moving.  All her friends lived where she used to live, her family lived close by, she had never done that (besides living in Spain for 6 months….side eye) and she had this great government job that gave her security.  Matter of fact, her whole life gave her security….because it was safe.  Now let me add a quick caveat…there is nothing wrong with safe…but when you begin to complain about the “safeness” of your life, then its time to tap into the greatness that is bestowed upon each of us.

Currently, my friend has taken major steps towards a dream that she has….and that has scared her.  I am all about this move.  I am all about these steps.  And anytime she has a doubting thought or begins to freak out about what she has done, I get excited to remind her of HER dream and how well she is handling all the changes!  I mean she is going to be a freaking LAWYER for goodness sake!  I see the greatness….but I’m reminded by her stories of some of her friends from her safe life that not everyone can appreciate the greatness that is happening to her.  Her friends mean well, just like most people who warn you and I of the risks and security that we are leaving mean well.  However, this can be dangerous to the dream that she is beginning to water and nurture and, by the way, these same people in your life can be just as dangerous to the dream that you have inside you!

I have learned through personal experience and through the experiences of others that the people you surround yourself with can make or break your personal dreams.  When everyone is telling you that you can do it, there is power in those words and creates powerful self-talk which leads to courage and thus courageous decisions.  However, when the opposite is in effect….well you guessed it…it can be devastating to any individual.

Moral of the story – Surround yourself with those who are pushing you into your greatness and who are just as excited about your dream as you are about it yourself!  Those people will be the ones who will remind you of your WHY when you have that day where you just want to quit.  Those people will listen and cry with you but who will then pick you up, dust you off, and send you back into the fight.  Those people are the ones who believe in you so much that most times they believe in you when you might not even believe in yourself.  And those are the people who earn the title Friend!

Who is in your corner?  Leave your thoughts in the comments below.